Updated: Jun 27, 2019
Steal your self-esteem back and learn to love yourself
Do you know the exact definition of self-esteem? Self-esteem is what you think of and feel about yourself; it’s how you see yourself and your belief in yourself.
It’s also how much you value yourself and your sense of self-worth.
But more than that, it helps us establish how we think, feel and act towards ourselves.
· How do you feel about yourself right now?
· Do you value yourself?
· Do you feel like you are good enough?
Listen up, everyone! I have an important announcement! Many, many people experience low self-esteem, including me at times in my life (thankfully, not any more!). My problem was that I always thought that I lacked confidence.
So I faked confidence for years, without realising it was actually my self-esteem that needed work.
Anyone can fake confidence; but you can’t fake positive self-esteem. You see, faking confidence didn’t improve my low self-esteem at all, it just made we feel worse.
Here are some of ways you may feel if you have low self-esteem:
♦ Confusion and self-doubt – making decisions was hard for me, I was always second guessing myself and analysing everything. Going over and over things in my head but never really getting the answer.
♦ Fear of failure – when I wanted to step out of my comfort zone and follow what I wanted to do, there was a little voice in my head that kept saying “you can’t do that”. So I didn’t because I was worried it I wouldn’t get it right, which meant that I would then feel like a failure.
♦ I’m different – I always felt like there was something wrong with me – that I wasn’t as good as everybody else. This, of course, made me feel inadequate and stopped me from following my heart’s desire. Either that, or I’d self-sabotage what I was trying to do.
♦ Negative self-talk – always criticising myself. I would deflect praise from friends and family. I didn’t know any different, this was what I knew and it was familiar to me.
You know what? You don’t have to go through life feeling like you aren’t as good as everyone else.
If there is something holding you back from feeling good enough and believing in yourself, use these 5 ways to grow your self-esteem:
1. Notice the language you are using. Your mind takes notice of the way you are speaking to yourself. Use positive self-talk always and challenge any negative thinking. Change your words from negative to positive.
2 Look in the bathroom mirror and tell yourself you love you! This may feel uncomfortable at first, but it will become familiar over time and that’s important.
3 Tell yourself you are worthy – repeat this in the shower over and over again, every day.
4 Write on your bathroom mirror or on Post-it notes “I am enough ” and put them around the house to remind yourself of this often.
5 Surround yourself with positive people who respect you and care for you. Don’t hang around with people who are going to put you down. And, above all, respect yourself!
Remember: “What you present to your mind; your mind will present back to you.”
Just so you know, I was able to uncover the reasons for my low self-esteem, get to the core reason why I had this problem and resolve it rapidly. Doing this inner work helped me so much.
It’s an area I am very passionate about and the work I now do within the field helps others build their self-esteem as well. If you are suffering, you don’t have to, let’s have a chat and see what we can do together to help you live your best life.
Book a session here or call me on my personal mobile number 0409 610 153.